September 21, 2004

08:31:04

*GASP*

(...Gotta breathe a bit...Kinda like Asphyxiation...the immersion of souls...)

SO, like I was saying, I have no Earthly Idea what "Love is..." and that's why I've owned every collection of the Far Side. Being blessed with this Oblivion, and having no conceptualized Idea at all, it leaves me only having a pretty good Idea of what Love shouldn't or isn't supposed to be. Maybe it's growing up in America with staggering divorce statistics insinuating that Love fails dismally some 2/3 of the tyme or on a personal level being raised in a modern day (Latter Day if you think it's all coming to an end) commune that once beleived in bigamy- silliy Mormons- but could it possibly, maybe be that the one thing that could really allow Love to flourish and thrive to the fullest is also the one thing that most cultures haven't been brazen or audacious enough to even attempt/adapt?

A little good old-fashioned Polyamory anyone?

09:02:04

Meanwhile, back in the Real America, where the streets are paved with Kraft Cheese, all my "fellow" fags are hellbent for wedlock with a fervor only their little flames could muster. Many admonish this behavior, particularly divorce attorneys, else they empathize even if they're quietly repulsed. Partially so we could be as miserable and, to their preference, as exclusive as the rest of the married Heteros (we'll call them Breeders). Personally, altho I find it unnecessary and you'll soon see why, I commend their efforts to consecrate their Love and "make it official" so to speak, or at the bare minimum be recognized and get a few tax breaks and other benefits essential to living. What those bitter Straights don't grasp is that monogamy, jealousy, disdain, and a whole delectable assortment of covetous acts have existed in gay relationships ever since the word "gay" no longer meant Happy. And long before that. I'm not certain about the gay cave men, but whichever one of them first discovered the prostate deserves a Nobel Prize.

(...And it came to pass that God created all Men with a prostate...And henceforth, the homosexual...)

However, the ONLY justification I can find for marriage/long-term coupling either for Breeders or one of dem "funny" families who adopted 3rd class from Pakistan or harvested one from a surrogate, is for the raising of children. Cuz even tho I think we should have free-range kiddies raised by a tight group of trusted adults in a pseudo-"Celestine Prophecy" kind of way, let's not kid ourselves. It may take village, but SOMEONE ought to be sole proveider and legally responsible for the heathens well-being, and it might as well (generally) be the person(s) who were careless, brave, and gracious enough to bringthe child into the wolrd in the first place. Now, adoption and single parenting have panned out some wonderful, stable people before and I don't doubt that it will continue to do so, but if you were to ask any child who enjoys visiting their grandma for the sheer sake of being spoiled, they would more than likely tell you that when it comes to Parental Units two is better than one and most are indifferent to having two mommies or daddies. As long as when one denies them something they can always appeal to the Other. In fact, the more the merrier! They look at us with as much wonderment as we do them and as long as you'll lavish them with attention, listen to them (I mean, ATCUALLY listen), and give them things the lil' bastards are not only elated but grateful. Unless you're a Bad Guy. Cuz they do know who you are. A childs intuition for what is natural and what is horribly wrong is far greater than any average adult phone psychics. They may be precious, but they are NOT innocent. they know what they do and are the most liberal thinkers there evere could be. And that is why voting should be 18 and under only.

09:11:04

Greetings America. It is now September Eleventh and once again I would like to offer my gratitude and a silent prayer to the maniacal Gods of our local terrorists for driving them directly into our economy and giving Americans the wake up call they deserve. Oh, and for making an ass of Bush, too. The deaths were unfortunate, but I know how hard it is to REALLY get our attention and stir us up. Hooray for Terrorism! That said...

So, um, yeah... when it comes to the quiant family Dynamic, marriage or long-term coupling is well, practical, and should almost be mandatory.

Except...

If my oppinion of all the pretentious couples out there with their fragile underdeveloped post-nuclear psyches stands that they hardly even constitute one Whole chemically unbalanced person- if that was any indicator at all- what I'm about to say about our noble tradition of marriage, monogamy, and (undetermined) long-term relationships for any purpose other than spawning should come as no shcok at all.

*clears throat*

Let's see.

It's outdated for one. Love is expansive and contagious and you would hope we'd have found more expressive ways of celebrating and making it prevalant by now. the Taj Mahal was a nice gesture. Let's try to do something like that. Solid, irrevocable, beautiful, ageless. Besides, I adore architecture and while Love can be vibrant and exhilerating it also happens to be fleeting and self-annihilating.

So Love should never be measured in tyme or in terms of anything "invested" and should seldom be expected to endure forever. It will always regenerate elsewhere, plentiful or not, regardless of tyming or convenience. Transient forces tend to work that way. Elusive and lingering all at once, taunting you just the same.

Besides, Love and Tyme don't always coincide.

Now then, what else is wrong with this peculiar habit of pairing off? The lil' Coupling ritual of binding one person to another? Could it be that many often do it because the feel and obligation, to obtain normalcy (while layering on another facade), or even for commerce like legal whoring, or some strange sense of appeasement? For your mother or any one involved other than the two undergoing spiritual surgery? Anxiety?

No, surely not.

There's gotta be some other motive.

To restrict yourself until you fall out of circulation and instead recieve catalogues in the mail. To confine Love with super-imposed parameters so long as it has the proper fertilizer.

Maybe, Maybe it's all just a crutch for the posessive and insecure. Materialism for the people and of the people to signify staure and the closure from knowing that Nothing is intangible so long as you have something to show for it and someone else to testify.

(...alienation inverted...sometymes leaves shrapnel...and your heart just grows around it...)

Could it be a construct for capital gain, acknowledgment, or recognition? If your keeping it to yourself does it matter if anyone sees you? Hope your patient. The pay out is never where you expect it.

A handy device for the thrifty codependant to distract from themselves? They'll catch on sooner or later. They always do. And you can start all over again. Please, for my sake, come up with some more original bullshit for your next tyme around during your downtyme when you're hating yourself.

C'mon. Help me out here. Cuz I'm at a loss. Just WHY go about it THIS way?

Isn't just a little presumptuous and Highlander-esque to believe "There can be only one"? Why should Love be so exclusive and private rather than inclusive, all-encompassing, and I reiterate, indiscriminate? Why does it NEED to be sanctioned? Why does it merit justification? Doesn't it do that on it's own?

(...one stab at a bleeding heart...the rest just shrivel...turn to whine for the truly carnal...fermented in sorrow...)

Why be so omissive? Why prescribe to a calloused institution of complacency and adopt it's outworn customs of "ownership"? And mostly, why condemn yourself to this immoral (there, I said it) sensory deprivation of the soul?

I'll tell you why.

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